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Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Lisa Lund CRC MFT

Marriage Counselor, Certified Gottman Therapist

Novato & Sebastopol CA, Marin & Sonoma County, California

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Gottman Method* Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research that began in the 1970’s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes marriages or committed relationships succeed or fail. From this research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have created a method of therapy that emphasizes a grounded and realistic approach to improving couple relationships.

This method is designed to help teach specific tools and skills to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage resolvable problems and dialogue about gridlocked (or perpetual) issues. We will also work together to help you appreciate your relationship's strengths and to gently navigate through it’s vulnerabilities.

Gottman Method Couples Therapy Consists of Five Parts:



Phasing out of therapy


Outcome Evaluation

Early in the assessment phase, you will be given some written materials to complete that will  help us better understand your relationship. In the first session, we will talk about the history of your relationship, areas of concern, and goals for treatment. I will also meet with each of you individually to learn your personal histories and to give each of you an opportunity to share thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. In the final session of assessment, I will share with you my recommendations for treatment and work to define mutually agreed upon goals for your therapy.

Most of the work will involve sessions in which you will be seen together as a couple. However, there may be times when individual sessions are recommended. I may also give you exercises to practice between sessions.

The length of therapy will be determined by your specific needs and goals. In the course of therapy, we will establish points at which to evaluate your satisfaction and progress. Also, I will encourage you to raise any questions or concerns that you have about therapy at any time.

In the later stage of therapy, we will phase out or meet less frequently in order for you to test out new relationship skills and to prepare for termination of the therapy. Although you may terminate therapy whenever you wish, I recommend for most couples to phase out treatment to be sure that they are sustaining the changes they have made.

In the outcome-evaluation phase, we will decide on a follow-up plan. This might include attending sessions scheduled every 6 to 12 months, or completing questionnaires at home. Follow-up in couple counseling has been shown through research to significantly decrease the chances of relapse into previous, unhelpful patterns. The purpose of follow-up will be to fine-tune any of your relationship skills if needed and to evaluate the effectiveness of the therapy received.

*Please note that this is a general overview of the Gottman Method. There may be some variations in this approach. Please feel free to ask me any questions or share any concerns.

Learn more about what Gottman has termed “The Four Horsemen”: Defensiveness, Criticism, Contempt and Stonewalling.

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My Practice:

With offices in Novato & Sebastopol CA, serving Marin and Sonoma County, California, my clientele is diverse and includes married, cohabiting, straight and gay couples as well as individuals.

I also provide couple and individual therapy to the communities of Santa Rosa, San Rafael, Terra Linda, Bel Marin Keys, Nicasio, San Anselmo, Ross, Kentfield, Corte Madera, Mill Valley, Sausalito, Tiburon, Petaluma, Penngrove, Rohnert Park, Cotati, Guerneville, Glen Ellen, Sonoma, Bodega Bay, Kenwood, Windsor, Forestville, Graton, and Healdsburg.

In addition to seeing clients as a Marriage Counselor and Marriage and Family Therapist MFT in California, specializing in Relationship Counseling, Premarital and Couples Counseling, and Marriage Counseling, I train professional clinicians to use research-based Gottman-Method therapy, as well as offer The Art & SCIENCE of Love - Weekend Retreat Couples Workshops.

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Offices in Marin & Sonoma County, California

Sebastopol CA:    (707) 547-0401       

Novato CA:           (415) 460-9500


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